Last Monday, our family said goodbye to Sweets, our beloved German Shepherd and the matriarch of our home. While we’re all grieving her loss, it’s our 18-month-old German Shepherd puppy, Dolly, who seems to be taking it the hardest, and our dog is a nervous wreck. Dolly, who was inseparable from her mother, has become a nervous wreck since Sweets passed away. She paces relentlessly, whines, and searches every corner of the house, as if hoping to find her mom waiting for her. Watching her struggle has been heartbreaking, and it’s made us realize just how deeply dogs feel loss and how much they rely on their pack for comfort and security.

Dolly’s behavior is a clear sign of anxiety and confusion. She’s lost her anchor, her guide, and her best friend. German Shepherds are known for their loyalty and sensitivity, and Dolly is no exception. She’s always been a little more high-strung than Sweets, but now her nervous energy has reached a new level. She’ll wander from room to room, sniffing and pawing at Sweets’ favorite spots—her bed, the couch, even the corner of the kitchen where Sweets would wait for treats. When she doesn’t find her mom, she’ll let out a soft whine that tugs at our hearts.

It’s been a week, and while we know grief doesn’t have a timeline, we’re determined to help Dolly through this difficult time. Here are some steps we’ve been taking to soothe her nerves and help her adjust to life without Sweets.

1. Stick to a Routine

Dogs thrive on routine, and in times of stress, a predictable schedule can be incredibly comforting. We’ve made sure to keep Dolly’s feeding, walking, and playtime consistent. Even small things, like giving her a treat at the same time every day or taking her on her favorite walking route, help provide a sense of stability. When everything else feels uncertain, her routine reminds her that some things haven’t changed.

2. Provide Extra Physical and Mental Stimulation

A tired dog is a calm dog, as the saying goes. We’ve been taking Dolly on longer walks and incorporating more playtime into her day. Fetch, tug-of-war, and even agility exercises in the backyard help burn off her nervous energy. Mental stimulation is just as important, so we’ve been using puzzle toys and training sessions to keep her mind occupied. Teaching her new tricks or practicing obedience commands not only distracts her but also reinforces our bond.

3. Create a Safe Space

Dolly has always had a crate, but since Sweets passed away, we’ve made it even cozier. We’ve added her favorite blanket, a few toys, and even an old shirt of mine that carries my scent. This gives her a quiet, secure place to retreat when she’s feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes, she’ll go in there on her own, and other times, we’ll gently guide her in when we notice her pacing or whining.

4. Use Calming Aids

We’ve also explored some calming aids to help Dolly relax. A pheromone diffuser, like Adaptil, has been a game-changer. It mimics the calming pheromones that mother dogs produce, which can help reduce anxiety. We’ve also tried a few natural supplements, like chamomile or CBD oil (with our vet’s approval), to take the edge off her nerves. While these aren’t a cure-all, they’ve helped her settle down during particularly tough moments.

5. Give Her Extra Love and Attention

Dolly has always been a velcro dog, but now she’s even more clingy. Instead of pushing her away, we’ve been giving her all the affection she craves. Whether it’s a long belly rub, a cuddle on the couch, or just sitting with her while she eats, these small gestures remind her that she’s not alone. We’ve also been careful not to reinforce her anxious behaviors—like pacing or whining—by giving her attention when she’s calm and relaxed instead.

6. Consider Professional Help

If Dolly’s anxiety doesn’t improve over the next few weeks, we’re open to seeking help from a professional. A veterinarian can rule out any underlying health issues, and a certified dog behaviorist can provide tailored strategies to help Dolly cope. Sometimes, a little extra guidance is needed, and there’s no shame in asking for help.

7. Be Patient and Understanding

Above all, we’re reminding ourselves to be patient. Grief is a process, and Dolly needs time to adjust to life without her mom. We’re trying to meet her where she is, offering comfort without pushing her too hard. Some days are better than others, and that’s okay.

Losing Sweets has left a void in our home, and Dolly’s grief is a poignant reminder of how deeply dogs feel and love. While she may always miss her mom, we’re hopeful that with time, patience, and lots of love, Dolly will find her footing again. Until then, we’ll be by her side, helping her navigate this new chapter—one paw step at a time.